Expectations lead to disappointment. Disappointment leads to hurt. Hurt leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate, of course, is the opposite of love. And, as love is something we all need to practice, we’d do well not to hate. Ergo, don’t expect anything from anybody! This is easier said than done because we tend to have expectations of others.…
Revenge is a very popular movie theme. From Death Wish and Carrie to Mean Girls and Django Unchained, everyone seems to love these stories of vengeance because it fulfills one’s own desire for revenge. We have this innate nature that wants to see people pay for the pain they have caused us, don’t we? Now we may not pick up…
Life is full of disappointments. We have all had our fair share of them. A miscarriage. A broken engagement. A job loss. An unfulfilled dream. An accident. The list goes on, ad infinitum. If we don’t handle disappointment properly, it can have grave consequences because disappointment leads to discouragement. Discouragement leads to disillusionment. Disillusionment leads to depression. And depression leads…
Have you heard the term “couch potato”? It is used to define a person who sits around watching television all day long, getting little or no exercise. So what’s the image that comes to mind when you think of such a person? An obese slob sitting in his underwear guzzling beer, right? Now, why would anybody want to be that?…
Have you ever been in a real desert? Well, even if you haven’t, you have undoubtedly seen it in the movies, and you know it is very bare, very barren. There is only sand as far as the eye can see, with nothing—not a tree or even a shrub—to break the monotony of the landscape. If we get lost in…
We have a tendency to be filled with things that are negative. Worry, doubt, bitterness, hatred, contempt, resentment, and anger are just a few such things. The problem is that when we are filled with things that are bad, there is no room for the good, because our hearts are like containers. Their capacity to store things is limited.  Let…
You may have heard the saying: Nothing is certain but death and taxes. Well, you can add “storms” to that because we are sure to face them as we journey through life. Ill health. Rocky relationships. Financial burdens. Job uncertainties. Wayward children. Errant spouses. You name it! Some of these storms can be small, like little gusts of wind that…
We have all suffered the terrible consequences of other people’s wicked actions, be it a result of anger, jealousy, enmity, or pure spite. However, it is one thing when we suffer because of what other people have done, and another thing when we suffer because of what we have done. We all do silly things, stupid things, and worst of…
I know some of us feel cheated in life. We think that when God was dishing out blessings, he served us a raw deal. And then there is the constant grind of daily life. We work hard in our jobs, but we receive no rewards. Despite all the effort, we put into our relationships, we don’t see any results. Even…
Grumbling is a very natural response to difficult situations. We all tend to grumble when we are in difficulties, even little ones like getting stuck in a traffic jam. Who hasn’t grumbled when forced to take a detour? However, it becomes dangerous when we start grumbling against God. Why? Because it stems from a lack of belief in him. Consider…
In our journey through life, there are several times we find ourselves in difficult situations where there are two equally unpleasant choices before us. No matter what option we choose, it is going to be terrible. What are we to do? The ancient Israelites found themselves in such a situation one day in the wilderness. After Pharoah gave them their…
“Oh, I’m simply buried in paperwork!” “I’m getting crushed by the weight of responsibilities.” “I’m in such a dark place, I feel suffocated.” Have you ever said these things, or variations of them? I’m sure we all have. There are times in life when we feel like we are being buried, crushed, or suffocated by people or circumstances around us.…
We all make mistakes as we journey through life. People shame us for these mistakes. It begins in childhood when our parents or elders scold us. It continues in school when our teachers rebuke us. Later on, employers or other people in positions of power berate us. While this is bad enough, it becomes infinitely worse when the chastisement is…
We often forget we are in a war, a war with the devil. It is a war for our souls, waged even before we were born. Although it is a spiritual war, it is as brutal as any fought on earth; perhaps more so. And like in any war, we get wounded, sometimes severely. When this happens, we can be…
We all like to be admired. We love it when people say nice things about us. We preen when they praise us; we glow when they adore us; we bask in their adoration. This is understandable because, let’s admit it, who doesn’t want to be admired and appreciated? However, this is dangerous because people are fickle. They will applaud us…
The wilderness is a harsh place. It is very bleak and cold and can seem devoid of hope. It is also very dark, as dark as some nights. Sometimes we can be in the wilderness for a long time, and the night can seem without end. To make it worse, we’re often alone. Our friends abandon us, but it can…
Ok, here’s a question for you. When is the last time you smiled? No, not that feeble twitch of the lips, but a broad, cheery smile that lit up the room and bathed everybody in it with warmth? Here’s another question for you. When is the last time you laughed? Not that little chortle, but a full-bellied laugh of merriment…
Disappointments are a part of life. So is failure. So, also, is rejection. It hurts when we experience it. When things don’t work out as planned; when we fail in something, be it an exam, a career, or a responsibility; or when someone we love dumps us, it hurts. Sometimes it hurts like crazy. Getting upset or sad or angry…
During one of my missions several years ago, I was invited to minister to a group of youngsters. They began the session with prayer, and at one point, each one took turns thanking God. When it was her turn, a lovely girl who had come for the first time was very effusive in thanking God for her eyes. She went…
At one point or another in our faith journey, every true believer has told God that they would be obedient to his every command. We have assured him that we would follow him, no matter the cost. We have promised to be faithful and loyal and true. Chances are we messed up on every single front and immediately had the…
When we journey through life, we are filled with zeal at various points, burning with passion, and eager to realize the many dreams that we have. We hope for a great career, a wonderful spouse, and amazing opportunities to come our way. We believe wonderful things are at hand. But when time passes and nothing remarkable seems to happen, when…
There’s a famous saying that goes: “The bigger they are, the harder they fall.” It’s true. We constantly hear about superstars in the entertainment business, and powerful and influential men and women in other industries suddenly come crashing down from pinnacles of fame and success in spectacular fashion. Bada boom! However, falling isn’t the exclusive domain of the rich and…
Life is full of disappointments and setbacks. Some of these are of our own making, but many are not. When we are unfairly laid off at work, when a lover walks out of a relationship without reason, when we are cheated in a business deal, when we are betrayed by someone we trusted, we are often left broken and miserable.…
Who among us has not been guilty of sin? Our lives are full of it before we come to know our Lord, but many (most?) continue to sin even afterward. We engage in sexual immorality, impurity, debauchery, idolatry, and witchcraft. We are given to hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, and orgies. All are…
There are times in life when everything appears to be at a standstill. We have all experienced this during the pandemic. During such times, nothing seems to happen. Everything appears frozen. All doors get slammed shut, and no new doors seem to be opening. Things that once were exciting now seem tedious and boring. It feels like we are treading water,…
There is not a single person among us who hasn’t struggled with a major calamity in life. It may have been a severe illness that left us bedridden for weeks. It may have been a broken relationship that shattered our hearts to pieces. It may have been an addiction that we couldn’t break. It may have been the loss of…

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